Malaysia 'Obedient Wives Club' a.k.a OWC, which recently mocked as COW. I have been following this issue from the Sabah Daily Express newspaper since last Sunday, 5th June 2011. Since then I have also been expecting protests if not from women association, from men association as well. As I expected, men did responded to this issue by saying, "we are your equal, not your master".When my dad bought our favourite newspaper, I immediately saw the headline "Downright Insulting, say women" and I knew it was the sequel to the OWC thing. So I read it and got pretty excited with all the comments from some well-known and influential women not only from around Sabah, but the peninsula as well. I don't wanna re-type the news here, so I took the liberty to scan it and share it with you guys below this paragraph.
This news thread was scanned from the Sabah Daily Express newspaper, dated on 9th of June 2011, as the headline news. Right click on the image and select "View Image" to read the bigger image size.
My say:
Is sex the only thing that promises a long last marriage? Is sex becoming the main necessity only to husbands? Don't wives have lust and sexual needs as well? Above all, are we (women) all just sex slaves to husbands and nothing else?
Surely most of the time, especially to the Muslims, men are more attracted to women from their sweet and good behaviour. Why? Because Muslim women are not allowed to put on sexy clothes to attract men. So, a good Muslim men are suppose to marry a woman just based on their good manners and behaviour while gambling on the risk that their future wife may or may not be sexually active in bed. Mean to say here is that sex isn't supposed to be the main thing in a marriage.
What's important is that wives respect their husbands and husbands love their wives. Sex is a sacred physical bonding between a husband and a wife, and this sacred bonding is often called 'making love' to produce offspring which parents are suppose to love. It is undeniable that most of the time, sex is becoming more like a necessity to either husbands or wives or maybe both, but that is a whole different story. What matter the most is that both husband and wife tolerate with each other in all matter, up from who's gonna cook breakfast in the morning down to the very last thing "are you tired hun? Can we still have sex tonight?"
But Ummu Atirah said for the OWC, "Good Sex is a duty of all wives towards their husband". Do you realize what's missing in this statement? It's men responsibilities! If we read the article, it indirectly says "failure of women to serve sex to their husbands give husbands the right to seek for sex entertainment outside of the household"
This concept maybe appropriate for the classic housewives but certainly not to modern wives because modern wives have their own career life. Husbands cannot expect their wives to come home from work to cook dinner, do laundry, chores and finally a compulsory sex service before sleeping. Another thing, men are suppose to be more responsible after marriage. Women should know this too. Ergo women MUST think very deeply and wisely before agreeing to a man's marriage proposal. If you say "I do" to a promiscuous guy, hoping that he will change after marriage... well, here's the thing. Promiscuous guy do not simply settle for "one-gina" overnight. No matter how good you are in bed, doing pole and strip dancing or role-play, a promiscuous husband will always looks for another hole to screw other than his wife's.
Ummu Atirah is a second wife to her new husband, and she seem very confident that she is gonna be his last wife. Honestly, I highly doubt that. Don't get me wrong, I may not know her husband as well as she does but what makes you think 2 is enough when there are 4 more rooms for your husband to fill in? How would the first wife feel when she reads or heard her statements? In other word, she is mocking the first wife indirectly by delivering to us this subliminal message, "I am hotter in bed compare to the 1st wife. Well, what can I say?"
For her (Ummu) to have made the ridiculous statement, I must say that it is a huge dumb act for a woman who is currently a second wife of someone. Not only that she acted foolishly but she also drags all the women back to the day before Cleopatra became the queen of Egypt somewhere before 68B.c. WTF??
I would certainly don't mind if guy supports this so called Club, but other than the Al-arqam lady team, no modern women will ever gonna support this Club. Women are even gonna make sure this Club is terminated for good. This does not mean that modern women are not aware of their responsibilities. Modern women are just smart enough to realize that both men and women are equal, only in different fields.
Like men, modern women are also involved in various career but unlike men, women do not do the handy-man job, heavy lifting, play ball with the kids and car washing. While husbands are fixing the light bulb on the ceiling, wives do the laundry. While husbands lift the gas cylinders to the kitchen, wives do the vege and meat chopping to cook for dinner. While husbands are playing with the kids outside of the house, wives do the cleaning inside of the house. While husbands are washing the car, wives do the plant watering. While husbands are pushing the shopping trolley with a child in it, wives do the shopping and budget calculating. While husbands are watching the evening news, wives help the children with the school work. While husbands are putting the children to bed, wives do the cloth ironing. Lastly it will depend whether or not both husbands and wives are still energetic enough to have sex. If not, maybe both should try again tomorrow night when it's not "groceries shopping day". Perhaps some energy will be saved for tomorrow's night sex. TOLERATE!!! Sex is not woman's duty like chores and laundries!
Wow... I can't believe I've actually typed this long. It almost sounded like I'm married, but I'm not! Lol! I don't have to be married to know that Ummu Atirah is practicing an entirely wrong wives duty concept. I just happen to have good common sense regarding to the issue. :)
Is sex the only thing that promises a long last marriage? Is sex becoming the main necessity only to husbands? Don't wives have lust and sexual needs as well? Above all, are we (women) all just sex slaves to husbands and nothing else?
Surely most of the time, especially to the Muslims, men are more attracted to women from their sweet and good behaviour. Why? Because Muslim women are not allowed to put on sexy clothes to attract men. So, a good Muslim men are suppose to marry a woman just based on their good manners and behaviour while gambling on the risk that their future wife may or may not be sexually active in bed. Mean to say here is that sex isn't supposed to be the main thing in a marriage.
What's important is that wives respect their husbands and husbands love their wives. Sex is a sacred physical bonding between a husband and a wife, and this sacred bonding is often called 'making love' to produce offspring which parents are suppose to love. It is undeniable that most of the time, sex is becoming more like a necessity to either husbands or wives or maybe both, but that is a whole different story. What matter the most is that both husband and wife tolerate with each other in all matter, up from who's gonna cook breakfast in the morning down to the very last thing "are you tired hun? Can we still have sex tonight?"But Ummu Atirah said for the OWC, "Good Sex is a duty of all wives towards their husband". Do you realize what's missing in this statement? It's men responsibilities! If we read the article, it indirectly says "failure of women to serve sex to their husbands give husbands the right to seek for sex entertainment outside of the household"
This concept maybe appropriate for the classic housewives but certainly not to modern wives because modern wives have their own career life. Husbands cannot expect their wives to come home from work to cook dinner, do laundry, chores and finally a compulsory sex service before sleeping. Another thing, men are suppose to be more responsible after marriage. Women should know this too. Ergo women MUST think very deeply and wisely before agreeing to a man's marriage proposal. If you say "I do" to a promiscuous guy, hoping that he will change after marriage... well, here's the thing. Promiscuous guy do not simply settle for "one-gina" overnight. No matter how good you are in bed, doing pole and strip dancing or role-play, a promiscuous husband will always looks for another hole to screw other than his wife's.
Ummu Atirah is a second wife to her new husband, and she seem very confident that she is gonna be his last wife. Honestly, I highly doubt that. Don't get me wrong, I may not know her husband as well as she does but what makes you think 2 is enough when there are 4 more rooms for your husband to fill in? How would the first wife feel when she reads or heard her statements? In other word, she is mocking the first wife indirectly by delivering to us this subliminal message, "I am hotter in bed compare to the 1st wife. Well, what can I say?"For her (Ummu) to have made the ridiculous statement, I must say that it is a huge dumb act for a woman who is currently a second wife of someone. Not only that she acted foolishly but she also drags all the women back to the day before Cleopatra became the queen of Egypt somewhere before 68B.c. WTF??
I would certainly don't mind if guy supports this so called Club, but other than the Al-arqam lady team, no modern women will ever gonna support this Club. Women are even gonna make sure this Club is terminated for good. This does not mean that modern women are not aware of their responsibilities. Modern women are just smart enough to realize that both men and women are equal, only in different fields.
Like men, modern women are also involved in various career but unlike men, women do not do the handy-man job, heavy lifting, play ball with the kids and car washing. While husbands are fixing the light bulb on the ceiling, wives do the laundry. While husbands lift the gas cylinders to the kitchen, wives do the vege and meat chopping to cook for dinner. While husbands are playing with the kids outside of the house, wives do the cleaning inside of the house. While husbands are washing the car, wives do the plant watering. While husbands are pushing the shopping trolley with a child in it, wives do the shopping and budget calculating. While husbands are watching the evening news, wives help the children with the school work. While husbands are putting the children to bed, wives do the cloth ironing. Lastly it will depend whether or not both husbands and wives are still energetic enough to have sex. If not, maybe both should try again tomorrow night when it's not "groceries shopping day". Perhaps some energy will be saved for tomorrow's night sex. TOLERATE!!! Sex is not woman's duty like chores and laundries!
Wow... I can't believe I've actually typed this long. It almost sounded like I'm married, but I'm not! Lol! I don't have to be married to know that Ummu Atirah is practicing an entirely wrong wives duty concept. I just happen to have good common sense regarding to the issue. :)
Comments
it's even worse for a wife to have to share that intimacy or whatever they think it is with another 2 or 3 women. can't it be more clearer for them that it screams "SEX SLAVES???" i don't see the rationalism in this.
@Zezebel, ya ba. Cuba la dia highlight benda lain kan, ok juga kali.Contohnya menggesa isteri2 supaya mendalami ilmu kulinari, elegen home fashion... kali berguna jua. Ini terang betul dia highlight tu SEX. Gambaran dia mcm seolah2 lelaki muslimin ni gila seks.. Sorry Muslim guys...